So After 40 Years What Are You Going To Talk About

The kitchen. About 9:00 AM. Pancakes are being prepared.

Spouse #1: I know you don't share my interest in science, but I just want to tell you that my BM this morning weighted exactly one pound, abstracting from any measurement errors.

Spouse #2: Listen. I was a science major. That is not science. That is obsessive self absorption.

Spouse #1: I used the before and after body weight method of calculation.

Spouse #2: Get out of here!

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When I was in my twenties, a time when people who had established relationships in college were getting married, I heard the story of a guy who, a certain time after his wedding was in the bathroom, when in came his wife who sat down on the toilet and relieved herself. The husband told this tale with the remark that that was when he knew the honeymoon was over.

The connection between these two stories is the absence of embarrassment associated with what is rather private speech and action. People say and do things in front of a spouse that they would never say or do in front of anyone else. How long does it take to reach this level of candor and shamelessness? Does it ever get to 100%? As I ponder the question I can think of two things that I have not shared with Beth. Will I at some future time? I don't expect either to come up and I don't expect to bring them up.

I guess the title should have been, What Won't You Talk About After 40 Years?